September 28th, 2009

The most popular edict among women today is that their father’s raped them as children. The deadly accusation destroys lives and requires nothing to back up such a statement. The popular thought is that this statement is so horrible no one would make it up.
What would be in it for them? In the case of McKenzie Phillips and at least three other full-grown adult women I know, the answer is vanity. It’s Satan’s favorite sin. They like the spotlight. They crave the attention. They parade their “so-called trauma” before news crews, talk shows, and in print. The accused, who in some cases is dead, has no way to defend themselves. The truth is, there’s no way to defend yourself against such a charge anyway. Because the prevailing attitude is again, so shocking, no one believes anyone would make it up. Psycho analyst, counselors, mental health students are quick to point out that the over the top behavior from these so called “victims” is textbook. They maintain it’s textbook no matter what the behavior happens to be from the self proclaimed victim. If I family knows the woman making such claims to be a habitual liar who has repeatedly made similar claims about other men in addition to their fathers, that behavior is explained away too. Psychiatrist reason that’s in keeping with a rape victim as well. NO ONE can question the accuser. They are obviously right because they dared to accuse. It’s set up from the beginning to be the deadliest accusation because NO ONE who defends themselves and NO FAMILY members who defend the accused are given any attention. The denial is consider “standard textbook behavior” as well. No thought is given to the fact that the accused just might be innocent. All that being said, I must add that I do believe such atrocities exist. I believe there are young girls and women who have been violated in the most despicable way by someone they trusted. I know it happens. I know and work with many women, my mother included, who I believe they have had such odious crimes perpetrated upon them. I believe these horrible things happened to these women because they are the least vocal about it. They share their stories with women in support groups and earnestly seek to help heal. They are not looking for a headline, they are not motivated by 15 minutes of fame. They don’t buy new clothes, get new hairstyles, manicures, and have their makeup done professionally to be interviewed by the nightly news. They are quiet heroes who strive to help a victim feel whole again. There are quiet heroic victims like Jaycee Dugard, who decide to deal with their agony and terror with the help of family and counselors and do not initially parade their angst out on television for ratings and their own talk show. I’m always suspect of the good Samaritan who calls the fire department to inform them of a three alarm blaze and then stands around to help in any way they can once the fire crew arrives. To neighbors, friends and family they look like a hero. But in many instances those are the very people who set the blaze in the first place. They crave the attention and for a very important moment in time they get it. Vanity. Satan can ruin so much with it. My brother sits dying in prison because of such heinous accusation that could have been disproved with medical records, time line, witnesses, etc… I was told none of that would matter in a court of law. 97% of all juries side with a victim regardless of anything the defense has to offer. I told my brother to take a plea. It will be interesting to see what becomes of McKenzie Phillips after this. A reality T.V. show, new book deals, film contract? She set off a three alarm blaze and this fire should yield her significant attention.